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Thanks for your feedback! Sign Up. Sometimes I would just leave it and not say anything but other times I did say something back.
I think they were surprised I had responded. Kerry Maybe you already have things that you say to people if they make comments. Or you might find it helpful to talk to your friends and family about things you could say and get them to help you think about how you might answer. It is not OK to make unkind comments to someone, for any reason. If it does happen, it can help to be ready with ways to make yourself feel calmer.
If someone has been unkind and you feel sad or angry, find someone to talk to about how you are feeling, like your mum, dad or carer, teacher, friend or family member. Try not to let the person see that you are upset or angry. They may even be trying to get a reaction from you. The best thing is not to react. This shows you as a strong person who is not going to let them get to you.
We have a very special online community where positivity, love, and acceptance continue to flourish in a time of great discord. If you are new here, welcome! Please see my Amazon Author page for the three books I have written. It can be a practice for all of us with Only Love Today. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for these comforting words. I participated on a conversation here on Facebook. We had different opinions about a very controversy topic.
Some ladies called me stupid, an ignorant and an idiot. During the conversation, where I respectfully told my opinion, she could not cope with, it got very ugly and disgusting. I deleted them immidiately and so she sent them via message. During the conversation she discovered that I misscarried a few months ago. I read of these trolls, that offend others out of the blue, but never immagined this could happen to me.
First I was angry, frustrated and scared. But then, I took the chance to learn my lesson. I reported her to someone who might be importamt for her. Cause this cyber mobbing must stop! Dear Maria, oh my heart hurts for you.
I have been exactly where you are. It shook me to my core. I wanted to retreat. To take down all my social media profiles, to take down my blog, to go to a place where that person could not touch me. But after a long night of prayers and tears, I felt a resolve rise up inside me. I thought: you can say all the vile, untrue, cruel words about me, but you cannot take what is most precious to me. I refused to let this person stop me from speaking my truths, helping others, and being a light in the darkness.
I love that you came to a similar conclusion. And now when I see a friend getting attacked online, I let her know she is not alone.
That unlikely teacher taught me how I want to response when I see someone in a similar situation. I also share with my daughters this experience to help them in the future.
I commend you for realizing the best response is no response. And for reporting it. Thank you for sharing your pain and your hope here today. It will help someone else I am sure of that. Thank you so much for your response.
Your daughters can be so proud of you! And yes, I will continue to share my thoughts when I know that they arise from love. But I will not accept if someone hurts me or others, and I will stand up for it.
I was not so hurt by the words, but I cannot understand how someone can be so rude. This calms me down. Nobody is born this way. So I respond to hatred with love. But though some people need to understand that they have to take the responsibilities for their behaviour. Hopefully they can change to spread love instead of hatred!
I so sorry for the personal attacks on you. Moreover I am so sorry for your miscarriage. Please delete the offending troll from all of your social media accounts. When you can change your frustration to pity. Then Forgive your troll for having such a dark soul.
May God have mercy on them. Thank you so much Audrey for your kind message. Cause God is in everyone of us. Sometimes we loose Him, but He still remains, and loves us, no matter what we do.
We all are born with love. But fear is nothing else than the desire for love. There is always love. And wanted to message her. That she might attack me again. And it was very painfull. Cause I believe that love always wins! It is a wonderful and timeless teaching. Thank you, Sal! I appreciate pointing this out! I bet there is a wealth of knowledge and inspiration to be found.
Thank you for sharing these experiences with us to help us learn about being more loving. I pray for you that God will bring you healing and peace. Thank you so much Taylor. People like you are such a gift! You know, I can endure those disgusting comments in some way.
We always care about our appearance and totally forget that what counts the most, is our attitude. So, even if with baby steps, there is always the right time and place to make the world a little bit kinder.
Lets start here and now! Thanks for your kind words, ladies. The little extra encouragement is much appreciated this week. Rachel, you have a gift and you are a gift! The way you process life, and weave together different events into a cohesive narrative that always leads the reader to deep life lessons, is truly inspired. And that idea of the pledge book is genius! I have great admiration for you and big gratitude for our friendship.
Thank you for being a steady and consistent light for me and thousands of others. What the world needs now is more people like you!! I am reading this at a time that I need it most. But what do you do when the person who inflicted the pain was someone you had considered a good friend? Specifically, how do you interact with this person going forward?
This person is someone who overlaps my life in so many ways — husbands are good friends, kids are in school together, we socialized as a family, etc. I want to rise above and learn as you say. But at the same time, the bell has rung and cannot be un-rung. How do you interact going forward with these people who have hurt you? Maria N.
I am in a similar situation to yourself and am finding it hard as well. I really feel for you, it is hurtful when a friend shows that she is not who you thought she was, but is still happy and bubbly with everyone else.
I have made the decision to be friendly to her on the occasions when we are together. As for hanging out, she has distanced herself from me already, so I will leave it at that. Please know that you are not alone in this, maybe this is an opportunity to cement your relationships with family and other friends. That is what I am now trying to do. Good Luck. Here in the US, we just had an election, which has caused a wide rift among us Americans.
There is much I can do in my own community — rally and march, support local causes, talk to people with backgrounds different from my own, volunteer. I can see that person as a teacher showing me how I do not want to be. And I can use that mindset to teach my children. Thank you! Thank you!!? This is a powerful lesson and one I really need to learn and put into action in my life.
Two years ago a neighbor who I thought was a friend began placing baited traps in her yard because neighborhood cats dug in her garden. I began keeping my cats indoors full time but just before Christmas my favorite escaped and disappeared.
I knew my neighbor had caught him in her trap and I begged for him back to no avail. She would not tell me what she did with him. He had been a Christmas gift for my daughter a few years before. We were devastated. For last two years I have held onto my hurt and my bitter anger toward my neighbor.
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